This is the last one...

It's been a good 2 to 3 months that i've been blogging on this space. Who knows, I might just choose to make this my new online residence. Haha. I've come to grow fond of the hyperlink (constructivity) since that's what I probably need in my life now. Anyway that's beside the point. Moving on..



I guess I sidetracked a *little* from what I was supposed to blog about for the past 2 weeks. I guess it's time to put it back on track.



There are many forms of communication, such as writing and speaking, just to name a few. In the prehistoric ages, the cavemen used cave paintings to depict their way of life. The ancient Egyptians used their hieroglyphics to tell stories of grand kings who have passed on. Communication has since advanced much from those ages.



Communication styles differ from person to person. Surely one prefers a method of communication over another. For example, one may prefer expressing one's self through writing than in words, and thus he/she might use a preferred form of communication much more often than another. I am probably one of those kinds of people, since I don't speak as well as I write. I think i'm pretty self-conscious, and I always am afraid of saying the wrong things at the wrong time. For such cases, just shutting your mouth would be the most logical option, no? It doesn't mean that i'm autistic though. Lol. I like speaking just as much as writing, though i'm apparently better in the latter.

With the advancement of technology, people are now able to communicate without seeing each other, through the Internet. Mediums such as Facebook and instant messaging softwares are not uncommon nowadays. Many people actually find it easier to communicate through these new media. Which wouldn't be really that surprising, since the possible intimidating presence of another person you may be communicating with face-to-face, is eliminated. Still, nothing beats face-to-face communication. After all, what is communication without the human touch, right? :)

Sometimes face-to-face communication might produce negative results, though. One of the more hilarious ones i've encountered... A friend told me he lost his apetite, as he watched/listened to another one of his friends shouting "SHIOK!" non stop, while gobbling his food like a hungry ghost just set free from the gates of hell. Comical when you hear about it, but how would you feel if you were in my friend's shoes?

The point is, all forms of communications have flaws. We could probably choose a suitable style or form of communication, to better suit the times and places (kairos, was it?) that we are in. Effective communication is the way to building better human relationships.

Fear: Will you let it eat you alive?

Fear.

No, i'm not talking about the overhyped game franchise.

We don't need to be taught to fear something, so I guess it's a hardwired instinct in all of us. Heck, even primitive cavemen feared wooly mammoths and all the other whatnots.

But that's besides the point.

As I was saying, fear is an instinct. It triggers several reactions, when we see something that we are terrified of. These include, but are not limited to, escalated heart rate, heavy breathing, and perspiration.

However, I acknowledge that some fears are uncontrollable, no matter how hard you try. Even for myself. This could be due to a traumatic experience, such as a fear of water due to almost drowning, or it could really be innate. It could even be caused by our social circle, for all you know. Fear has many origins.

However, there is no shame in fearing something. It is, after all, the most primal emotion that has gotten humans thus far. I admit, I myself have many fears. But when properly conditioned, these fears can be turned into a form of motivation, a driving power to excel.

Let me share with you another one of my personal experiences.

When I was still a slave of nation *AHEM* I meant full-time national serviceman, I was assigned to the Singapore Civil Defence Force. I honestly, honestly admit that, before I enlisted, I used to fear blood. I used to fear the loss of lives. I was just like any other civilian walking down the street, I felt that I didn't have the capabilities to save a life, neither did I have the courage to shoulder that responsibility. The training administered to us, taught me to be more confident of my own abilities, to be able to think calmly in a crisis, to apply the most logical solutions to the situation. To save lives.

My fears were supressed. I was conditioned to save lives. True enough, I did attend to a few traffic accident cases, and successfully saved a few lives. Amazing how conditioning yourself to resist fear, can have such a different outcome, from not doing anything about it at all.

Will you let the inner beasts mutilate your defenseless self, or are you going to throw them back into their cages, and throw away the keys?

Eat humble pie once in a while. It's good for health.

In this world, there is nobody who isn't egoistic.

Humans don't need to learn to be egoistic. It is hard-wired in us, to be egoistic. Heck, even babies cry if attention isn't given to them, right? Egoism at its best.

True enough, there are some people who appear to be less egoistic, but it entirely depends on the individual. It could be family upbringing, possible, but not one's nature, for it has been explained above.

There are times when circumstances forbid someone to be egoistic. For example, when making a decision that can/will affect a large number of people. The decision maker will have to put everyone else's interest above his own, otherwise he would lose the respect of the group, and subsequently, the rights to making decisions for the group. That in itself, is egoism, no? To make decisions that seem fair to everyone, so the leader of the group, will remain the leader of the group. So much for altruism. It is but a false ideal, egoism in diguise.

Humans merely making use of other humans, to achieve their own goals and satisfy their needs. A sickening thought. This makes me believe, that the human race is a corrupt and hopeless one. Doomed for extinction.

Okay, maybe that was a *little bit of* extreme negativity. But it's just a personal point of view, that you don't need to subscribe to. :)